If your response is consistent, the likelihood of extended discourse is greatly reduced. Self soothing behavior, repetitive vocalizations, or not responding verbally are all part of the disorder and not due to disrespect. Certain behaviors can be annoying or agitating to family members but discipline will not stop these behaviors and may only serve to increase them. You must carefully determine when behavior is a purposeful disregard of expectations, as opposed to which behaviors are from the disorder. In the case that behaviors become violent, hurtful, or disruptive, an intervention has to occur but this can be in the form of distraction or redirection.
Asking the child to explain, draw a picture, or write about why the behavior is bad and then discussing it allows the child to develop empathy. Often the child does not understand how their behavior affects others and needs help relating their actions to social consequences. Remember that the disorder creates unique challenges for your child so keeping your cool will pay off. The concept of right and wrong has to be consistently taught and reinforced in new situations because the child may not generalize expectations to new environments.
Discipline still needs to occur in public and when your child is being cared for by others. Younger children might need a physical reminder of expectations in the form of an index card with the rules written on it. Once your child is older, a conversation about expectations could be sufficient before entering new situations, but each child is different.
Bear in mind that even the best disciplinary plan will not offer complete success. The best result happens when a child is rewarded for the behaviors you want. Be sure to notice when your child is doing the right thing, without prompts, and immediately acknowledge and reward their actions. Anna Kaminsky earned her PhD in Developmental Psychology from the University of Toronto and completed a post-doc internship at our centre.
Anna currently works as a medical services manager at the CAMH. You can follow her on Twitter at AnnaKaminsky1.
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Tali Shenfield on May. Now that he is Middle School he is beginning to stick out because he is not socially maturing at the same rate as his friends.
He does not really fit the typical Autism profile or even other Asperger articles I have read. Again thank you for this article. He gets really upset when someone says something mean to anyone and he will call you out. He loves his family. I cannot see my life without him.
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Love you Alek. I need people to know my son is kind, sweet,perfectly and wonderfully made. My son is different because there are too many people out there trying to be the same. My son is unafraid because of his aspergers.
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He thinks outside the box because of his aspergers, he forgives and loves more than most in this world because of his aspergers. My son has ASD because God said this world needed more love. God put my son on earth to teach others not to hate one another but welcome one another. My son has both.
Great article though. Very well written and expressed. Just want to add that antisocial behavior in the dsm refers to something very different. I see that you mention social anxiety and i agree with that being connected to autism spectrum but antisocial is more about someone not having any conscience and not feeling empathy. Thanks angela. I have seen a huge turn around with my Aspie 13 year old daughter this year due to some relatively minor ways in which I approach her to do things.
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The most significant things I have noticed are that if she is reminded not demanded to do a task — she will do it when she is ready. And if new information or a stressful situation come her way she often overreacts or reacts negatively — she just needs time to process it, then she resets and gets on with things.
She is becoming much more confident in herself and is so helpful when she is given the opportunity! I wish I would have known that my daughter could have had therapy to help with her Aspergers.
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Instead I was left to deal with it and I was ok with it. I thought, its not really a problem. When it becomes a problem, then we will deal with it. Bad bad bad mistske. I fear that my relationship with my daughter is now irreparable. Work on it while they are young to avoid problems later. No one told me. I do hope that at least one person here who is concerned about their child stops and takes a look at the medications that their aspergers child is taking.
My son was seeing someone who was prescribing so many meds that we ended up in the ER. If your instinct is telling you that your child is being over medicated, you are probably right. He has gone from 3 meds to one. It took a long time to wean him off of the junk that his pharma-motivated prescriber gave him, but now we have our son back. I wish that people would understand that my 14 year old son has the kindest heart in the world and he absolutely loves babies. I wish people understood, i dont get hints, tell me what you mean straight up.
The other thing is, i do not mean to be rude or too blunt. But i do not know how to say it any other way. Social speach…. I dont get it.. Who it might help is parents of school age children as they can get an IEP individualized Education Plan if they wish. We chose not to do that as the accommodations granted would have been extra time on assignments or similar small changes.
Our daughters Aspergers is mild, we wanted her to learn to live in a neuro -typical world, as an adult in a job we doubted that any diagnosis would excuse her from missing important deadlines so wanted her to learn ways to meet the expectations she would have to face as an adult. There is no cure, just love, acceptance and support. Thank God my daughter has one true friend. Unfortunately this friend is a busy person and has minimal time to spend lately. Most time all my daughter has is me.
She is very lonely, therefore very depressed. You find out as an adult, particularly in with Black Lives Matter permeating our everyday life i. If I may, I grew up as a child in the s. I had and still do an older sibling by 5. How so? Well, he played baseball and he had a group of friends. In fact, my brother was very, very popular during his school years, yet, he also engaged in substance abuse regularly e.
Hi does anyone know how to get tested for autism as a adult in South Jersey while on Medicaid? Though im willing to pay what I can. My wife is 38 we have 5 kids 3 of which are diagnosed on the autism spectrum. My wife was diagnosed with bipolar few years ago was told most of her life she had depression before that but her symptoms are like are 2 daughters. Of which my 16 year old just got diagnosed, it seems long process for girls were my son was diagnosed at 4.
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As the doctor said he considered them with aspergers if we were still using the old diagnostic criteria. Both me and my wife think she may be wrongly treated or have both because she an adult. I hope someone can please help! My 8 yr old was diagnosed last year.